Hi [redacted]
Re-reading your email, what you’re talking about is a classic case of limerence. Have you read my two stories?
Limerence, part I: http://dailyuw.com/2007/10/18/not-love-fallin-in-limerance-part-1/
Limerence, part II: http://dailyuw.com/2007/10/25/single-in-seattle/
I have felt like you in the past, and honestly, the only way to get over it is to avoid contact with the LO. Your feelings for him are so strong, and the lack of reciprocation (he reciprocates sometimes. Other times, he ignores you, right?) will only make you feel worse, and make you lose your self esteem in the end. I’ve been through this twice—once recently with someone who I felt returned my feelings, but didn’t—and another time in high school with my best friend. The thing is, my feelings for these guys never faded, but I got sick of being toyed with—sick of the bullshit—so I just ended the nonsense. It’s a personal choice for you. You have to weigh it out. Is the joy of being around them worth the pain of your feelings never being returned? Are you OK always liking them a little bit more? Is it worth the risk of emotionally closing yourself off from people out there who may, nay, who WILL love you the same way you love them?
These are the questions I asked myself.
Best,
Erin
