I met a guy through a friend.. it was one of those things when your best girlfriend introduces you to her best guy friend and him and you are supposed to have this crazy connection because you both love the same girl dearly? We talked and he already knew my boyfriend and such so we had plenty of people in common.
So days passed and I friended him on Facebook (of course) and we started chatting on one anothers’ walls and it was nothing big- just a ‘great meeting you finally’ kind of thing. I TOTALLY felt like the kid wanted my time and panties after this wall fondling turned into a full blown text message explosion (he had my number from a party I threw and invited him to via Facebook)… but then I thought about it and STILL thought it was fine because I was like “cool I have a new friend… that has no life because he texts me all the time?”… He was nice so I felt weird thinking he was oddly over-excited to talk to me every minute.
Then I finally yanked his romance situation out of him and he’s all like “I have a girlfriend…but I don’t love her…”…WTF is that?? I literally sat in my bed holding my phone over my face thinking, “is this supposed to mean it’s okay to flirt with each other? Oh okay she doesn’t matter because there is no LOVE?” THEN he goes “yeah I’ve been with her for a year or so…and I break up with her every couple of months……..” Since when did relationships that last over A YEAR not “count” because love isn’t proclaimed? I thought the journey to love was the “falling in love” stage.. not the “I’m off the hook until we utter those words” type of deal.
It’s been a few weeks and we still talk and hang out as friends (my intentions all along) but that factor of his mental makeup is still bothering me for some reason…It made me wonder about all of the guys I had dated and didn’t fall in love with… were they doing this on the side?! It’s nauseating to think about.
~G.I.
Philadelphia, PA
